Do you go by smell, look, taste or how you will feel after eating that item?
Before: I would have a meal plan, a huge list of mental rules. I didn't care about how I felt, I cared about what I did. And if I got all of what I "allowed" myself to.
I think I go by convenience, and then just if I want it. I eat healthy things most of the time, just because that's how I want to eat. I don't have any rules for myself.
And which of these come first the sight, smell or imagined taste of the food?
I don't really roam my kitchen picking up on smells or sights. And I don't think of the taste. It usually goes something like "Oh, I'm hungry, what do I have time for, what sounds good?" It's not a big deal at all.
How do you decide how much to eat?
I just put food on a plate. I know about how much I want. But if I get full sooner, I don't eat the rest. If I am still hungry, I eat more.
How do you know when you are finished eating?
I am never finished eating. I will eat for the rest of my life. I take breaks when I'm full or do other stuff, or don't like it anymore.
Do you leave food on your plate?
I there is food I don't end up eating. It's never intentional.
Do you eat slowly or fast?
Depends on how much time I have.
Do you put your knife and fork down between mouthfuls?
If I need my hands for other things.
Do you engage in conversation during a meal?
If there are people to talk to.
Do you take a break for any length of time?
If I get interrupted.
Do you believe you need to clean your plate?
No, the dishwasher does that ;) I don't feel a pull either way.
Do you share your food?
I'll offer. I don't mind splitting things.
Do you notice the texture of your food as you eat it?
I would say so. But I don't aim to.
How do you know if you want a dessert?
If I feel like I want one.
Do you use this process at home too? Or is there another meal selection process for when you are home?
It's about the same. Sometimes I get smaller portions while traveling if I don't want to carry leftovers.
Is there a particular mood you need to be in to eat? Would you eat when you are sad, or happy or frustrated?
My mood doesn't impact when or what I eat. I wouldn't avoid eating because of my mood. It's not a danger to me eating what I don't want.
What do you believe about mealtimes and eating in general? Are they happy times, stressful times?
I think food is wonderful, and fun, and social, and boring, and necessary, and annoying, and inconvenient...like sleep. You gotta sleep.
For Lydia's answers about how things USED TO be, watch the full video HERE.
The truth is, normal eaters don't think that much about food. And there is no amount of observing how other people eat that change the way YOU eat.
Everything you do is a cascade of thoughts that lead you to action. You change your thoughts around food and your behavior around food changes. And once you see how they are related, and how to do this, you are free.