"If I just ate whatever I wanted I would just binge all the time"
"It would be bread and chocolate until I'm 400 pounds"
This is a common thing to hear and an understandable way to feel
I mean, if we are binging now, then what would we do if we were ALLOWED to binge?!
But lets look at reality (I am always a fan of that)
Telling yourself now that "I can not binge, this has to stop, I can not have that or I have to do something about this" ... how is that working for you?
Look at your behavior. The facts.
You are binging right? You tell yourself "I can't binge!" and then you get so confused as you watch yourself binge.
Let's do a little experiment.
Listen to this: You can not have ice cream. You are out of control around ice cream. From here on out you are not allowed to have ice cream. Do not eat it. You can never have it again.
Now, what food sounds better than anything else in the world?
It's not always intuitive, but - depravation drives cravings -
Restriction IS binging. It's just the other side of the cycle.
So what happens when you DON'T eat whatever you want?
You eat everything you DON'T want!
So then what do we do? Especially if that is what we have always done?
The key is to allow everything.
This doesn't mean you HAVE TO eat anything.
If you "have to eat all the m&ms because you are letting yourself" then food STILL has the power.
It's about saying "I can have all the m&ms in the whole world however much I want at any time and at any time in the future and it's ok" and then CHOOSING what you want.
That may be no m&ms that may be 5, that may be the whole bag.
BUT I guarantee that you will eat more calmly and more healthily when you are CHOOSING to eat it and knowing you CAN eat anything you want, then when you eat in the mode of "I can't!"
Do you have memories of yourself eating a whole pan of brownies saying "I can't eat any more of this, I have to stop, I have had too much"
That is a mindset that keeps you finishing the whole pan.
This one thing is the quickest and most effective way to end the binge eating: knowing you CAN binge. Feeling it in your bones. It's always an option.
I have had a huge percentage of women in my program that said "Oh, I get it! I really CAN have anything! As much as I want! I get it now. Like, I intellectually knew it before, but now I really, really get it!"
Those women often never binge again.
If you would like some help getting to that allowing place and ending the food crazies you can schedule a free session at www.LydiaWente.com/apply